- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you decide together whether you go, and where you'll live.
Discuss the language before you choose the place.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Czechia? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers,
the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way not one of
you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan; then you both
see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Czechia and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up AOW.
AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have
one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's right of residence, for being insured together for healthcare and
for inheritance. If your partner is an EU citizen, your partner has a right
of residence of their own. If your partner has a nationality from outside
the EU, your partner lives in Czechia as a family member of an EU citizen.
Not every EU country treats a registered partnership as a marriage. If
you're neither married nor registered, the country decides case by case, on
the basis of a durable relationship. Check in the step on your healthcare
further on in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
Outside Prague and Brno, Czech is the language of the school. For children
that is a different task than for adults who work from home there. A foreign
child of compulsory school age is entitled to twenty-four months of free
language support.
Who learns the language, and when? Outside Prague and Brno, Czech is
also the language of the GP and the neighbours. The choice comes down to
this: whoever stays in the city buys convenience. Whoever goes out buys
space and a language to learn. Often the partner without work needs the
language most, and that's exactly the one with no colleagues to practise
with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.