The kitchen-table card
Three evenings, with a week in between. Write down what you agree.
Name
Name
Evening 1, why
Date
- What do we hope to find there?
- What are we leaving behind here?
- Would that really be different there?
Evening 2, what we give up
Date
- Who and what will we miss?
- What are we dreading most?
- What do we do if it disappoints?
Evening 3, the conditions
Date
- What has to be in place for each of us to say yes?
- What would be a reason for us to come back?
Yes, provided…
Each of you writes down what has to be in place to say yes.
Name
Name
Who arranges what
| What | Name | Name |
|---|---|---|
| The papers or the visa | ||
| The house and the cancellations | ||
| The school | ||
| The move | ||
| The money |
When do we look back together?
Is it going well? What needs to change? Is there a reason to come back?
After 6 months, date
After 12 months, date
Who learns the language, and when?
Often the one who comes along without work needs the language most. Preferably start before you leave, together.
Are children coming?
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits going.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance, let them look along and choose something.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision and agree how they keep seeing their friends.