- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you decide together whether you're going. No forms are
involved, and yet this is where most journeys fail.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Suriname? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
The heavy points to discuss together on those evenings:
- The healthcare: its level, and what you do if evacuation is needed.
- The infrastructure.
- For returnees, the expectations of family on both sides of the ocean.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for your residence, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move.
That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your
plan; then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Suriname and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up AOW.
AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have
one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's residence, for being insured together for healthcare and for
inheritance. If you're of Surinamese descent, your spouse falls under your
route with the PSA document. For that, it's marriage that counts. Check at
your residence further on in your plan what applies to you.
One conversation you have right now. Don't let yourself be naturalised as a
Surinamese citizen before you know what it does to your Dutch citizenship.
Anyone who voluntarily takes on another nationality usually loses the Dutch
one automatically. There are exceptions, for example if you were born in
Suriname and live there, or if you're married to a Surinamese citizen. The
article on your nationality with this step sets them out.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
Your child goes to school there in Dutch, in a system with the same names as
at home. Mind the enrolment: the ministry announces the dates every year in
April or May, and whoever is late waits for a place.
Here the language is an advantage. Suriname has something no other
faraway destination has: at school, at the counter, in hospital and with the
neighbour you speak Dutch.