- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you decide together. You end up with a few conditions on
paper that you both stand behind. With Morocco this conversation has a
shape it doesn't have with other countries.
For part of the families this isn't an emigration but a return. Sometimes
that holds for one generation and not for the other. Children who grew up in
the Netherlands then move to the country of their parents, not to their own.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Morocco? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Discuss the money too. Phase 3 explains the tax reduction on your pension.
That reduction means that part of your wealth stays in Morocco after the
transfer. That is a decision for two, not for one.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for your residence, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move.
That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your
plan; then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Morocco and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW. For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW.
From the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss whether that partner keeps
an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on big
expenses.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. Check at your residence and at your healthcare further on in
your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
Many Dutch families choose one of the 44 recognised French schools. They
have one admission round a year. For 2026-2027 you applied online from
5 January to 11 March. Whoever arrives in the summer has missed that round.
Who learns the language, and when? At the French schools the
curriculum is French, with Arabic alongside. If one of you speaks the
language from home, the weight lies with the other. Often the partner
without work needs the language most, and precisely that partner has no
colleagues to practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you
leave.