- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this conversation you decide together whether Mexico fits, and when.
You end up with a few conditions on paper that you both stand behind.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Mexico? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
With Mexico there's one hard rule you have to see together. The AOW
fallback hits only whoever goes alone. The health policy hits whoever is
older the hardest, because insurers take almost nobody new above seventy.
If you're close to that limit, you decide here not only whether you go but
also when.
Discuss the distance too. Eleven hours' flying is no weekend home. And the
time difference of seven or eight hours turns every phone call with the
Netherlands into an appointment.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for the visa, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That
way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Mexico and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW. For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW.
From the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss whether that partner keeps
an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on big
expenses.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. In Mexico your partner comes along through the unidad
familiar, family unity. A partner you live with can come along too. You
then hand in official proof of cohabitation instead of the marriage
certificate. Your partner's card runs with yours: if one lapses, so does
the other. Check at the visa and at your healthcare further on in your plan
what else applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
In Mexico the school year starts at the end of August. For 2026-2027 that's
on 31 August. Time your departure for it if you can.
Who learns the language, and when? Already for the application,
documents that aren't in Spanish need a Spanish translation. Count on daily
life being in Spanish too. Often the partner without work needs the
language most, and precisely that partner has no colleagues to practise
with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.