- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
This is the step without forms, and yet this is where most journeys fail.
Emigrating isn't something you do alone, even if the papers are in one
name. With this step you know whether the whole family stands behind the
choice.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, a week apart:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Australia? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one
A4.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers for the visa, the house and the cancellations, the school, the
move. That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into
your plan; then you both see what's done.
Work for the partner. A practical point that's often forgotten: the
partner who isn't the main applicant needs a working life there too.
Check now whether your partner's occupation has prospects there.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Australia and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW, the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. You can insure yourself voluntarily with the SVB.
You have one year for that, counted from the moment you're no longer
insured. Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of
their own, and how you decide together on large expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. Australia also lets a partner come along whom you live with
without being married: a de facto relationship. Then you do have to prove
that you've been together for at least twelve months before you apply,
for example with joint accounts and the same address. So start on that
now. Check at the visa further on in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs the most. Agree how they keep in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
How school in Australia works, and what it costs per visa, is in the
article about school with this step.
Who learns the language, and when? You probably speak English already.
But a job interview, a rental contract or a parents' evening is something
else than a holiday. Often the partner without work needs the language
most, and that's exactly the one without colleagues to practise with. Plan
it together, preferably before you leave.
Take your time for this. All the following steps are easier with a family
that really stands behind the choice.