- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether you go. Austria feels close: same
time zone, eight hours' drive. Still, a few things deserve an honest
conversation before you decide.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Austria? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Take the mountains into those evenings too. Winter is a lifestyle there,
and it costs money: winter tyres, vignettes, and a mountain you only go up
insured.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers,
the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way not one of
you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan; then you both
see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Austria and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up AOW.
AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have
one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses. And who earns the income in the
first months?
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's right of residence, for being insured together for healthcare and
for inheritance. If your partner is an EU citizen, your partner has a right
of residence of their own. If your partner has a nationality from outside
the EU, your partner lives in Austria as a family member of an EU citizen.
Not every EU country treats a registered partnership as a marriage. If
you're neither married nor registered, the country decides case by case, on
the basis of a durable relationship. Check in the step on your healthcare
further on in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
Mind the school choice at ten. After four years of Volksschule (primary
school) the system already chooses between Gymnasium and Mittelschule.
That's four years earlier than in the Netherlands, and the Volksschule
report has a say. If you move with a child of eight or nine, start with
German from day one. For children who arrive without German there are
Deutschförderklassen, separate classes to learn German.
Who learns the language, and when? Every counter works in German, "Sie"
is the standard and titles matter. Whoever speaks German integrates quickly
here. Whoever doesn't stays on the outside. Often the partner without work
needs the language most, and that's exactly the one with no colleagues to
practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.