- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you take the decision together, with the difficult sides
included. You end up with a few conditions on paper that you both stand
behind.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Malta? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Malta feels like the easiest emigration in the Mediterranean: English, EU,
three hours' flight. Precisely for that reason four things need to be on
the table:
- The winter indoors. Maltese houses have no heating and no insulation. January is clammy there, and a dehumidifier is standard equipment.
- The wage level. Outside iGaming (online gambling), financial services and tech it lies far below the Dutch one.
- The scale. On 316 square kilometres every outing is the same island. Some find that peace, others feel claustrophobic after a year.
- The bustle. Traffic and building sites are part of present-day Malta.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way
not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Malta and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up AOW.
For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW. From
the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss who carries the income in
the first months, whether the partner without an income keeps an account
and money of their own, and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. If your partner registers in Malta as your family member, a
spouse can simply join. A partner you're not married to must bring two
years' proof of a durable relationship to the application. Check at your
registration and at your healthcare further on in your plan what else
applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
In Malta the state school is free, and it belongs to the place where you
live. Church and private schools charge fees.
Who learns the language, and when? At the desk you speak English. The
south and the interior are Maltese. Often the partner without work needs
the language most, and precisely that partner has no colleagues to
practise with. Is the English of one of you rusty, or do you want to live
in the south? Then plan together who learns which language, preferably
before you leave.