- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you weigh up together whether Japan suits you. You end up
with a few conditions on paper that you both stand behind.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Japan? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
One thing the recruitment stories skip: the distance is real. It's
thirteen hours' flying and seven to eight hours' time difference. In the
whole of Japan there's a Dutch community of just over a thousand people.
Japan won't become a second Netherlands. That's the attraction, and also
the price. You weigh it together.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for the visa, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That
way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Japan and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up AOW.
For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW. From
the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss whether that partner keeps
an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on big
expenses.
Also discuss your partner's career. On a dependent visa, the visa for
family members, your partner may work at most 28 hours a week. That needs
a separate permission. If you both want a career, look seriously at a work
status of your partner's own or at the HSP route. There the partner does
work freely.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. In Japan only marriage counts. For unmarried partners there's
no regular route: the dependent visa asks for a marriage certificate.
Check at the visa and at your healthcare further on in your plan what else
applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
Public elementary and junior high schools in Japan accept foreign
children. Tuition and textbooks are free, but lessons are in Japanese.
Who learns the language, and when? What the language means for you is
in the step "Be honest about the language". Here you agree who is going to
learn Japanese. Often the partner without work needs the language most,
and precisely that partner has no colleagues to practise with. Plan it
together, preferably before you leave.