- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this conversation you know whether everyone in the family stands
behind the move. There are no forms involved, and yet this is where most
journeys fail.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, a week apart:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find on Curaçao? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one
A4.
With Curaçao the heavy point isn't the language, but the distance. You
don't just fly back and forth for a birthday. And family visits less often
than everyone promises at the farewell. Take that along on the second
evening.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way
not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Even within the
Kingdom, the SVB counts Curaçao as living outside the Netherlands. So
whoever lives on Curaçao and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no
longer builds up AOW, the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not
insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW. You can insure yourself
voluntarily with the SVB. You have one year for that, counted from the
moment you're no longer insured. Also discuss whether that partner keeps
an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on large
expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. As a Dutch national you're admitted to Curaçao by operation
of law. If your partner is Dutch too, they apply for a declaration of
their own. If your partner has another nationality, admission by
operation of law doesn't apply, not even after a marriage. Your partner
then needs a permit of their own. Check at the declaration of admission
by operation of law and at your healthcare further on in your plan what
applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs the most. Agree how they keep in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
For children, the choice of school on Curaçao is a bigger decision than
in the Netherlands. Language, curriculum and costs vary widely there.
Phase 5 works that out, and so does the article about school with this
step; read it before this conversation.
Who learns the language, and when? With Dutch you get a fair way on
Curaçao. But Papiamentu is the language most people on the island speak,
and most schools are bilingual. Often the partner without work needs that
language most, and that's exactly the one without colleagues to practise
with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.