- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you check together whether everyone stands behind the decision.
No forms are involved, and yet this is where most journeys fail. Take the
choice of a canton, and so of a language, into this conversation.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Switzerland? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers,
the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way not one of
you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan; then you both
see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Switzerland and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up
AOW. AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you
later get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you
have one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's right of residence, for being insured together for healthcare and
for inheritance. If your partner is Dutch or a citizen of another EU or EFTA
country, your partner has a right of their own to live and work there. If
your partner has another nationality, marriage is what counts here. If
you're married, your partner may come along as a family member under the
free movement agreement, with a residence permit of their own and the right
to work. If you're not married, that right doesn't apply automatically. Then
ask the canton's migration office what's possible. And in Switzerland you
pay the health premium per person, also for a partner without an income.
That's further on in your plan, at your health insurance.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
Where you go to live decides in which language your child goes to school. In
German-speaking cantons Swiss German comes on top, as the language of the
playground. The teaching material is in standard German.
Who learns the language, and when? That depends on your canton.
Switzerland has four national languages: German, French, Italian and
Romansh, and each canton chooses its own official language. Your tenancy
agreement and your tax return will be in it. Often the partner without work
needs the language most, and that's exactly the one with no colleagues to
practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.