- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you decide together. There are no forms, and yet this is where
most journeys fail.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find on Sint Maarten? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
With Sint Maarten these two belong on those evenings too:
- The distance. You don't just fly back and forth for a birthday.
- The hurricane season. A few months of alertness every year are part of life here, and not everyone carries that equally lightly.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers,
the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way not one of
you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan; then you both
see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives on
Sint Maarten usually stops building up AOW. AOW is the Dutch state pension,
and for the AOW the Caribbean part of the Kingdom counts as outside the
Netherlands. For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less
AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's residence, for being insured together for healthcare and for
inheritance. Check in the steps on your residence and your healthcare
further on in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
Mind the language at school. Education there is predominantly in English.
For children that's a bigger step than it looks in the brochure photo.
Schools that teach (partly) in Dutch have waiting lists.
Who learns the language, and when? On Sint Maarten that's English: the
labour market there is English-speaking, and education mostly too. If one of
you speaks little English, it's often the partner without work who needs it
most, and that's exactly the one with no colleagues to practise with. Plan
it together, preferably before you leave.