- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you know whether the whole family stands behind the plan. No
forms are involved, and yet this is where most journeys fail.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Panama? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
With Panama the distance weighs heavily. It's well over ten hours'
flying, and family comes less often than everyone promises at the farewell.
On top of that comes the sum from the step about your income and your
healthcare: what do you keep net after the Dutch tax and the health policy?
Have that conversation with the real numbers on the table.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for your residence, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move.
That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your
plan; then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Panama and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up AOW.
AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have
one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's residence permit, for being insured together for healthcare and
for inheritance. If family members come along in your application, their
marriage and birth certificates go into the file, with an apostille and a
sworn Spanish translation. Check at your residence permit further on in your
plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
In Panama the choice of school is above all a choice of language. Public
education is free and in Spanish. The international schools are mainly in
and around Panama City, charge serious school fees and have waiting lists.
Who learns the language, and when? Outside the expat enclaves, the
places where many foreigners live, Spanish is not a choice but a condition.
Often the partner without work needs the language most, and that's exactly
the one with no colleagues to practise with. Plan it together, preferably
before you leave.