- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether you go. Norway wins every ranking
on nature and salary. So discuss precisely the things that aren't in the
brochure.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you're leaving
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Set aside three evenings, a week apart. Talk with your partner, and
depending on their age with your children too:
- Evening 1, why. Why do we want this? What do we hope to find in Norway? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What needs to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to come back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
With Norway these two belong on those evenings too:
- The housing market is a buyers' market. Well over three quarters of Norwegians own their home. The rental market is small and often temporary, so buying comes into view sooner than you're used to.
- The price level is real. Groceries and especially alcohol cost far more than in the Netherlands.
Against that stands a high net wage, provided you arrange phase 4 well.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers,
the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way not one of
you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan; then you both
see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Someone who lives in
Norway and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually stops building up AOW.
AOW is the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have
one year to take out voluntary insurance with the SVB.
Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of their own,
and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can matter for your
partner's right of residence, for being insured together for healthcare and
for inheritance. Check in the steps on your registration and your healthcare
further on in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they'll stay in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
School in Norway is free. For the youngest children there's the barnehage,
the childcare. The right to a place only applies after an application, so
register your child as soon as you have an address.
Who learns the language, and when? In Norway that's Norwegian, and you
pay for the language yourself. Unlike in Sweden and Denmark, EEA citizens
get no free language lessons. The integration act excludes them explicitly.
Often the partner without work needs the language most, and that's exactly
the one with no colleagues to practise with. Plan it together, preferably
before you leave.