- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
In this step you decide together whether it's going to be New Zealand. You
end up with a few conditions on paper that you both stand behind.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in New Zealand? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
New Zealand is the farthest destination on this site. That's not a mood
picture, but a fact with consequences. A single journey costs you well
over twenty-four hours and a stopover. Popping over to a funeral in the
Netherlands is a week of your life and a hefty sum. Discuss that out loud,
because it's the reason people return.
Also discuss the things that only start to weigh later:
- The house prices in Auckland and Wellington.
- In most places you're stuck without a car.
- In the first years you may not buy a house. That's not a budget question, but a law. Further on in the plan you read how it works.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the papers
for the visa, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That
way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
New Zealand and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds
up AOW. For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less
AOW. From the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take
out voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss whether that partner
keeps an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on
big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. Check at the visa and at your healthcare further on in your
plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
In New Zealand the state school is free for a domestic student. Whether
your child is one depends on your visa. With a residence visa it's
arranged. On a work visa your child needs a student visa of their own.
Otherwise you pay fees as an international student.
Who learns the language, and when? In New Zealand everything is in
English. For a skilled residence visa your partner and children aged 16
and over must speak English too. If they don't reach the score, you can buy
English lessons in New Zealand instead. Often the partner without work
needs the language most, and precisely that partner has no colleagues to
practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.