- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether it's going to be Greece. You
end up with a few conditions on paper that you both stand behind.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave behind.
The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, with a week in between:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Greece? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be arranged for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one A4
sheet.
Greece feels like a holiday, but three things need to be on the table:
- The wage level. Greek salaries are well below Dutch ones, while Athens asks almost Dutch rents.
- The distance. A quick weekend back to the Netherlands isn't on the cards.
- The season. The summer you know lasts here into October and is heavy in July and August. Forty degrees is no longer an exception.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way
not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you can both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Greece and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW. For every year you're not insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW.
From the moment you're no longer insured, you have one year to take out
voluntary insurance with the SVB. Also discuss who earns the income in the
first months, whether the partner without an income keeps an account and
money of their own, and how you decide together on big expenses.
Married, registered or living together? It can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. In Greece it counts above all in healthcare. At e-EFKA, the
Greek social insurance, a spouse can only be added if the marriage is in
the register of the AADE, the Greek tax authority. For a registered
partner or a cohabiting partner we found no official confirmation. How you
arrange it is in the step about your healthcare further on in your plan.
If you're both Dutch, each of you lives in Greece in your own right. If
your partner has a nationality from outside the EU, they live there as
your family member. A spouse then always counts as a family member. If you
live together unmarried, you prove a durable relationship and Greece
assesses it itself.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four: tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed habits, like the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school: tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, like their room.
- Teenagers: involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs heaviest. Agree how they keep in touch and when they see their friends again.
In Greece compulsory education starts at four, in kindergarten. You enrol
your child online at the school that belongs to your home address.
Who learns the language, and when? Greek is the only language on this
site with a different script. Every counter, every form and every tax
assessment is in Greek. English helps in the tourist areas, and hardly at
all outside them. Often the partner without work needs the language most,
and precisely that partner has no colleagues to practise with. Plan it
together, preferably before you leave.