- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether it will be Cyprus. Cyprus
feels like an eternal summer, but a few things deserve an honest
conversation before you decide.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, a week apart:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find on Cyprus? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one
A4.
On those evenings, take these four points along too:
- The water. The island recently went through the worst drought since records began. It runs largely on desalination: seawater made drinkable. Being frugal is a lifestyle there, not a campaign.
- The summer heat. The interior reaches forty degrees, for months.
- The distance. Five hours' flying is no weekend back.
- The scale. There are no trains and buses are limited. Without a car you live on an island that's bigger than it looks.
Also discuss who earns the income in the first months.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers, the house and the cancellations, the school, the move. That way
not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into your plan;
then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives on
Cyprus and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW, the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. You can insure yourself voluntarily with the SVB.
You have one year for that, counted from the moment you're no longer
insured. Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of
their own, and how you decide together on large expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. Check at the registration and at your healthcare further on
in your plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs the most. Agree how they keep in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
On Cyprus you choose between free public education in Greek and a private
school in English. What that costs, and when you enrol, is in the article
about school with this step.
Who learns the language, and when? At the counters you get by widely
in English. But the public school is Greek-speaking, and with it the
playground and the parents' evening. Often the partner without work needs
the language most, and that's exactly the one without colleagues to
practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you leave.