- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether it will be Canada, and in which
province. Canada is far away, and that's no detail. You're not back with
family in a weekend.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, a week apart:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find in Canada? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one
A4.
On the second evening, also discuss the things that only weigh later:
- the winter;
- the distances;
- the fact that in most provinces you're stuck without a car.
Also discuss seriously which province you want to live in.
Administratively, that choice decides more than people think. Your health
insurance, your driving licence and your tenant protection differ per
province, sometimes considerably.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers for the visa, the house and the cancellations, the school, the
move. That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into
your plan; then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Whoever lives in
Canada and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no longer builds up
AOW, the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not insured, you later
get 2 percent less AOW. You can insure yourself voluntarily with the SVB.
You have one year for that, counted from the moment you're no longer
insured. Also discuss whether that partner keeps an account and money of
their own, and how you decide together on large expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. Check at the visa and at your healthcare further on in your
plan what applies to you.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs the most. Agree how they keep in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
School too is arranged per province. In Québec French is the language of
instruction, and English schooling is only possible there with
permission. Read the article about school with this step before you choose
the province.
Who learns the language, and when? You probably speak English already.
If you choose Québec, French is the only official language, and the
language of the school. French can also earn extra points for your visa;
that's at your points, earlier in your plan. Often the partner without
work needs the language most, and that's exactly the one without
colleagues to practise with. Plan it together, preferably before you
leave.