- Lead time:
- three evenings, and weeks to let it sink in
- Costs:
- none
With this step you decide together whether Aruba is the right choice.
There are no forms involved, and yet most journeys fail here.
Going alone? Then have this conversation with the people you leave
behind. The questions below work for them too.
Take three evenings. One conversation is too short for a decision like
this. Agree on three evenings, a week apart:
- Evening 1, why. What do we hope to find on Aruba? What are we leaving behind here? Would that really be different there?
- Evening 2, what we give up. Who and what will we miss? What are we dreading most? What do we do if it disappoints?
- Evening 3, the conditions. What has to be in place for each of us to say yes? When do we check together whether it's going well, for example after six and after twelve months? And what would be a reason for us to go back?
Write the conditions down. On the kitchen-table card it all fits on one
A4.
On those evenings, discuss these points at least:
- The distance. This is the heavy point. It's a nine-hour flight, and family visits less often than everyone promises at the farewell.
- Your partner's work. Your partner needs a permit of their own, with permission to work. The jobs are mainly in tourism.
- A plan if it disappoints. Agree what you'll do if the island feels too small after a year. That conversation is cheaper before departure than after.
Divide the work. Agree who takes on which part of this plan: the
papers for the permit, the house and the cancellations, the school, the
move. That way not one of you carries everything. Invite your partner into
your plan; then you both see what's done.
Is one of you going without an income of your own? Even within the
Kingdom, the SVB counts Aruba as living outside the Netherlands. So
whoever lives on Aruba and doesn't work in the Netherlands usually no
longer builds up AOW, the Dutch state pension. For every year you're not
insured, you later get 2 percent less AOW. You can insure yourself
voluntarily with the SVB. You have one year for that, counted from the
moment you're no longer insured. Also discuss whether that partner keeps
an account and money of their own, and how you decide together on large
expenses.
Married, registered or living together? That can make a difference for
your partner's residence permit, for co-insurance in healthcare and for
inheritance. On Aruba a spouse or registered partner gets a permit as a
family member. If you're neither, your partner can only come along as a
lasting partner. For that, everything below has to be true:
- You are both unmarried.
- One of you is a Dutch national born on Aruba, or naturalised as a Dutch national there, or is a knowledge migrant (an employee in a category that the Aruban ministries designate as knowledge migrant).
- You have a notarial cohabitation agreement.
- You have had a relationship exclusively with each other for at least three years.
If you are both Dutch nationals from outside Aruba and neither of you is a
knowledge migrant, that route isn't open to you. Then each of you needs a
permit of your own, or you marry or register your partnership before the
application. What comes with the partner permit is at the DIMAS
application further on in your plan.
Are children coming? How you tell them depends on their age:
- Up to about four. Tell them shortly before the move and keep fixed routines, such as the bedtime ritual and the cuddly toy in the hand luggage.
- Primary school. Tell them well in advance and let them look along: photos of the school, the neighbourhood and the house. Let them choose something, such as their room.
- Teenagers. Involve them in the decision itself. For them, saying goodbye to friends weighs the most. Agree how they keep in touch and when they'll see their friends again.
School is the softener. Aruban education follows the Dutch model: taught
in Dutch, with mavo, havo and vwo, and compulsory schooling from age four
until the seventeenth birthday. So the children switch over without a
language break. When to enrol is in the article about school with this
step.
Who learns the language, and when? In the classroom it's Dutch. But
the language of the island is Papiamento, on the playground too. Often the
partner without work needs that language most, and that's exactly the one
without colleagues to practise with. Plan it together, preferably before
you leave.